357 Magnum hair dryer
Awesome.
Always.. I’m about to do this. We have like an unlimited supply of mac & cheese right now :D
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secondpregnancy asked: Hahaha! I literally laughed out loud at "butthurt". Hahahah! Nice!
You'll be fine. Don't worry too much. Any plans for Easter?
Lol :D Yeahh
Just eating dinner with the family I guess. My mom’s birthday is the day after so I need to get her a present still lol. How about you?
secondpregnancy asked: Wow... that's awful! Getting a disease like that from his house? That's no bueno! You're very right, of course. A baby needs a good place to live in. Trust me.. they get into everything in a matter of no time at all. And everything goes straight into their mouth. Lol. Imagine if it found a bug and ate it? Ugh... My son finds so many damn things in my clean room. I can't even imagine what it would be like in your situation.
My advice, you don't have to yell or shout. It's bad for the baby and guys instantly turn off their attention when you do. They're like kids. You have to talk softly and seem more like you're explaining something patiently and reassuringly. You'll just have to explain to him that you only have the baby's best interest in mind here and that none of this is to punish him as a person or as a father. And you really need him to be on the same page. This was unexpected, but happening and he needs to be involved or he will find eventually that he will regret immensely. Whether that means emotionally or financially. (Child support ain't cheap, sunshine! Lol.) One way or another, that kid will be a part of his life whether he wants it or not. So, he can do it the easy way with you and be the best dad he can or he can do it from his wallet and never know what he's dishing out his money for. It's pretty simple in this regard and simplicity is all they will understand.
And you're absolutely right on it wasting money. I'm now with a guy named Steven and we're expecting. He had NO clue how expensive a baby was until he got with me. Diapers, wipes, baby powder, lotion to protect their skin, medicine when they get sick, all kinds of weird dohickies that function to help breathe easier, to reduce coughing, that catch their attention, that teach them things. It's endless. The formula, if you don't breastfeed, the breast pump and bags for milk if you do. The clothes, the shoes they constantly grow out of. The special things your baby needs for a medical reason ( Mine has eczema and needs expensive lotions to keep his skin moist. ), special toothpaste they can swallow, special soap that's sensitive for their skin, the special laundry detergent for their sensitive skin, ( And that goes hella quick ), and, of course, whatever it costs you to live on your own ( Rent, utilities, food, gas and insurance for a car, medical expenses, health insurance, prescriptions, circumcision (Mine wasn't free because it was "cosmetic" and costed me $300!) the list goes on and on and gets more unique for your own babies needs. It's crazy! Not to mention, daycare, at the cheapest, is $400 monthly ( Which is the cost of renting out a room ). That's the CHEAPEST! And to get on a 4C's list for help with daycare is so long, they are closing applications! Government help is not as easy as it sounds to get. You have to jump through hoops and all kinds of obstacles will get in your way.
Let him know this, dearie! Lol. That extra pot money will be needed for medicine or diapers. I guarantee it! Good luck. :)
Yeah I know, I was in the hospital for 3 days. I mean there’s no way to tell for certain that’s what it’s from, but the doctors said it was most likely a bug bite, and there aren’t bugs at my parents house and I rarely was outside at that point.. it was winter.. haha. But yeah, when I was talking to him today it was through text messages and I wasn’t being a dick or anything, I was calmly telling him how I felt and what I was doing about it and he got all butthurt about it and now hasn’t texted me back. So whatever. Hopefully he’ll see this and realize he needs to change. But thankyou (:
secondpregnancy asked: He'll eventually tell you that he doesn't pay for it, but that his friends let him smoke with them. Pfft... I mean, I can't say I'm an expert on your boyfriend. He may be a really great guy other than this pot thing, else I don't think you'd be sticking around waiting for him to grow up. But I had no good experience with my own pot head ex and realized that I wasted three years trying to make things happen that weren't going to. I hear that some people change, but I don't think people really change. No doubt he's in Colorado because it's legal to have a small amount on you and he's still doing the same childish crap. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for experimenting when you're young, but when your a fifty year old dad smoking pot on your back porch and you ask your kids to smoke pot with you just so you're not the only one doing it, there's something wrong with that to me!
I remember, not only did my boyfriend smoke before, but all my room mates were guys and his friends. They smoked every day and I had to keep reminding them to at least do it outside so I wasn't caught up in it. They would sneak it inside while I was sleeping and the fact that my ex would allow them to do that knowing his baby could be hurt from it was astounding! And when I went to my GYN, he mentioned that there was a small amount of pot in my system and I just wanted to shoot daggers out of my eyes at my ex while he was sitting there. After that, my GYN treated me like the worst person in the world! He must have thought I was a pot head mother. People will look at you wrong if you're with him and he's doing it. They'll think you're doing it, too.
I hate to depress you, hun. If he went to jail for it, you'd be shit out of luck for a father or child support. It's a tough job alone, let me tell you. I was pregnant at nineteen and gave birth at twenty. I'm now almost twenty three. It's a struggle every day. That's why women are so strong compared to men. That's why we have reasons to cry more often. Lol. We see more than they can. And, bottom line, if you don't want your little one to be influenced by the morals his/her father represents, then ( And I'm not telling you what to do here at all ) you're going to have to stand up for those morals. Tell the father quit or else, if you have to. You'll eventually learn ( If he's like my ex ), that the pot will come first. Better to find that out now rather than later.
I feel bad giving you a reason to stress when you're pregnant. I know you'll do what you have to for that little one in there seeing as how you put up such a fight for him/her against that kid on facebook. You'll know what to do. I hope your situation doesn't become like mine and I sincerely mean that, hun.
Oh man, that is horrible, I’m so sorry you had to deal with that douchebag… my boyfriend doesn’t do that really, for the most part he respects that I don’t want him smoking in the house or car when I’m there. But there’s like a lot more to it, he could be making a lot more money if he wanted to. The place he lives in now is fine I guess for just him, but it’s a basement with bugs and fucked up carpeting and all kinds of shit. I was pretty much living there for awhile and somehow ended up with mrsa, which is a potentially deadly infection which I’m pretty sure I got from a bug bite.. from his house.. but he seems to think it’s just fine and we can raise a baby there. I told him today I’m going to stay at my parents house because my parents are willing to help and stuff and let the baby live here too, and he took it so personally like I was insulting him or something. I didn’t even break up with him but he was freaking out about “not being able to see my kid” and whatever. We haven’t even been together very long and I’m just seeing how different we are maturity wise.. I’m 19 too & will be 20 when I give birth, he is too but its like he’s still a teenager, and I’m an adult. Especially since becoming pregnant my maternal instincts have taken over and I just couldn’t care less about anything else but the baby. But he acts like it’s not even real. I would like to stay with him and make it work, but only if he can straighten himself out, grow up, and devote himself to being a parent like I have. And don’t worry, you’re not giving me any reason to stress lol I’ve been thinking about this stuff already. And I’m actually a lot less stressed now that I’m back at my parents house and I’m not getting annoyed by every thing haha.
msxnitro asked: about the Facebook comments:
I LOVE how you made him look like a moron! and you're a great mum for putting your baby first. so long as you know that no one has a case against you.
how are you doing?
Haha, thanks! It wasn’t hard to do lol. Thankyou very much (:
I’m okay, hungry as always haha how about you?
secondpregnancy asked: So, I can't help myself. I thought I'd sympathize and vent to you about that little shit yelling at you on your Facebook. My ex, the father of my son who is no longer part of my life, was a little pot head. Smoked weed everyday as often as I tried to make him quit. That's not being controlling, either. I have a right to make sure that any bad influences in my son's life are GONE. And that was a seriously bad influence. He was sneaking around behind my back or doing it and telling me to get over it. Finally, when he also didn't seem to give two shits about taking care of his son on top of that, I told him fuck off and left him. He moved to Colorado a few months later and we haven't seen him since. The point of this is, pot heads have the same damn argument. No amount of common sense is going to change the fact that these little faggots want nothing more in life than to smoke and to be left the fuck alone to do it. And every time they get around other people that do it, they brag like fuckin' newbie drinkers about doing it and think they are so damn cool for it. They'll never grow up. That little D bag is no different. The pot fucked up his immature little brain and that, mentally, still has him trapped in high school.
Congrats on the pregnancy and don't worry about that kid. Just worry about the father of your baby and do whatever you need to do for your little one. You're in the right here. Hope you have a happy Easter. :)
Thankyou! Yeah dude, exactly, it’s so agitating, especially today seeing all these little potheads talk about getting high. Nobody cares. And I’m trying to get the father of my baby to quit too. Especially because he wastes his money on it. He won’t get a better job or even more hours where he works now to save money for the baby, but he told me he’ll start mowing lawns so he can use that money for weed? Ugh, I just don’t know what to do. But thankyou very much, and same to you (:
The overwhelming stupidity of some people…
So the father of my child posted a status about real stoners smoking weed every day or something retarded like that, and I made my status then this little mentally incompetent fucktard decides to comment on it and just completely infuriate me past the level my hormones will allow without the need to kill someone. If you have the time please just read and if possible please inform this kid of his complete lack of brain cells or possibly kill him whatever works.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1684466622 <- his facebook.
Seriously, I have no idea who this kid even is, I don’t do anything to anybody EVER, I mind my own damn business except when it comes to my boyfriend and family, then this little stranger comes in and just tries to insult me on things I would obviously know a lot more about than him, while also making himself look like a complete dumbass. God damn!
My friend Stevie put it fucking perfectly:
So again, this idiot’s facebook is http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1684466622
Even if you are a complete stranger to me, especially if you are to him, just tell this fucker what needs to be said. He obviously doesn’t respect the boundaries of people he doesn’t know whatsoever so why should anyone else. Complete disrespect. Damn.
